Rowe: We’re really excited to present your “Luminous Woman Weekend,” offering women a chance to explore their inner selves. How did you become interested in the ways that a woman’s inner cast of characters can impede or foster her personal growth? Did you have your own experience of this?Read More
I rediscovered the magic of fairy tales when I began to read bedtime stories to my young son. In revisiting these stories as an adult, I also began to realize the tremendous impact they had had on my life. The depth psychologist Carl Jung held myths and fairy tales in high regard as important representations of the collective unconscious.Read More
Family therapist John Gottman, a professor at the University of Washington, has spent his life researching successful couples and the principles and practices that makes marriages work. His research shows with 90% accuracy which couples will survive and which will not.Read More
We are heading into the season of insanity. A lot of my clients are sitting and discussing their feeling of sadness and dread at what lies ahead. I tell them that a lot of people hate the holidays and feel awful about it. The problem is that the pressure to overextend yourself is everywhere. You are supposed to smile and be full of holiday cheer while you are over spending, attending parties with people you don’t particularly like, consuming too much sugar and alcohol, gaining weight, and enduring torturous travel gauntlets to spend time with relatives that remind you of who you used to be that you would just as soon forget. Ho, Ho, Ho.
This year I recommend that you schedule at least two “silent nights” during the season to save your sanity. Do it now, in advance. Consider them a sacred time out and protect them. You don’t have to tell anyone what you are doing. They might consider a night off sacrilegious. So if someone asks, tell them you are already “booked” that night. You are. You are spending the evening with yourself and perhaps someone special that you really want to be with.
Don’t go out, don’t buy or bake one more thing, don’t address cards or wrap presents, just cozy up, chill and be still. First of all, turn the television off. Light a fire or some candles and curl up with a blanket and watch the flames. Have a simple meal, like soup. If you are alone, fill a bathtub and soak. If you are with a lover, give the gift of touch and presence. Later on, look out at the stars, the snow, and the night. Reflect. Be grateful for the gifts of your life, the ones that can’t be bought in stores. Let the chaos continue out there. Find an island of sanity and locate your quiet center. This is sacred time and in it you will find your peace on earth.
A woman becomes luminous when she begins to live by her own inner light. This light grows as she establishes a taproot into the creative power of her archetypal depths, giving her a quiet dynamism that emanates from the core of her being. As she listens to the voice of her soul and tends her inner flame, she becomes aware of her own particular passions and discovers the gifts and strengths that will open the path for their expression.Read More